I hate it when technology distracts me from spending quality time with people…unless it involves me explaining my life in memes, in which case…hand me your damn phone!
Despite the fact that it’s one of my biggest pet peeves, I’m also firmly hinged to my smart phone in social settngs. I know, what a hypocrite, right? *insert embarrassed emoji*
Before you laugh this off, you should know the facts. Turns out phone snubbing or “phubbing,” is actually a thing.
“The act of snubbing someone in a social setting by looking at your phone instead of paying attention.”
E.g. Me. All the time. May as well insert my picture next to the definition. Thanks Urban Dictionary.
In fact, Sydney, Australia, ranks 6th on the worldwide phubbing scale, just shy of being considered an epidemic.
But let’s not be phone bashers, k? Obviously they’re hugely beneficial when it comes to creating extensive networks with ease or offering wider exposure to the world. They allow instantaneous communication, instantaneous answers and sometimes,instantaneous hook-ups...the list is almost endless.
So in my defence, it’s vital that I be constantly connected. Because you know, my livelihood/career kinda depends on me being across it all…right?
Funnily enough, despite having hundreds of followers or countless virtual friends, it’s often those highly connected individuals who feel most disengaged.
Research on this topic condemns not the platforms that we use as social media consumers, but how we use them.
In other words, you can’t blame Facebook for the fact that you spend all your free time stalking that really cute guy who doesn’t know he’s in love with you yet (give it time), but rather, it’s the fact we choose this behaviour over any other course of action, nurturing a vicious cycle that feeds into itself.
Although people apparently prefer having a broader but much shallower pool of connections, this choice is one that isn’t making them happy. It’s actually propagating feelings of isolation.
Mind blowing, isn’t it? Given that our generation is by far the most accessible, it’s hard to believe that they could also be the loneliest. And yet, this sad paradox is a reality.
Ok, don’t freak out just yet. Before you stage a full-blown phubbing intervention, here’s a few tips to cut down the phone time and reinvest in some face time...not FaceTime...actual human face-to-face time:
1. Shame a phubber on the very platforms they prefer over your stellar company. SnapChat a photo of themselves engorged in their phone and send it to them with a simple #rude.
2.Should you literally need to take matters into your own hands, this app will allow you to block your significant others’ apps until they stop phubbing you. Genius!
3. This one isn’t recommended but just in case all hope is lost…toss that shit in a lake and watch it sink like the Trump presidency.
Ready to quit phubbing?? Good luck!
Adrianna is a 22-year-old journalism graduate who is never seen wandering the streets of Sydney sans coffee in hand. A self-confessed sugar addict, she is a lover of sweet treats, sweet words and even sweeter fashion finds. When she isn't hitting the gym or buried in a horror film of some sort, you'll definitely find her Instagramming at @adri_zapp.