As teenagers we all spent too much time caring about everything that could fit into our pubescent brains. We cared about what our friends were thinking, what our outfits were saying and which boy band was truly the best. To be honest, it was all quite fucking exhausting. Now that I'm growing taller and supposedly wiser, I've started to realise that I just don't care about as many things as I used to.
I wouldn't say that I have zero fucks to give, but I'm probably bordering on about three out of ten, which is why I was so pleased to stumble upon Sarah Knight's novel The Life changing magic of not giving a f*ck.
After reading about the wonders of the book, ‘The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up’ by Marie Kondo, I decided that I would definitely not be interested, and instead picked up, ‘The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do’, by Sarah Knight.
Boy oh boy, did I make the right decision. Although my house isn’t magically clean and organised like Kondo would have hoped, my life now has less fucks to be distributed and it feels fucking amazing.
Let me give you the low-down on this wonderful book. Sarah Knight had heard all about the magic tidying book by Marie Kondo and decided this was not something she cared for either (great minds think alike). She worked in a publishing house in the corporate world and was losing the sense of joy in her life.
She decided as she was almost about to leave her twenty-something life behind, that it was possible to stop giving so many fucks about so many things. It was time to remove the stress in her life, to rid herself of unwanted obligations, shame and guilt, and give her fucks instead to people and things that made her happy.
The book is definitely not PG, there are more swear words in it than Gordon Ramsey in a kitchen, but don't let that put you off. Knight breaks down how she develops a ‘fuck budget’ and decided what fucks she’s going to give to Things, Work, Family, Friends and Strangers. When I first started reading it, I thought, “have I accidentally bought another self-help book?” (it’s happened more than once).
Knight’s witty yet brutal breakdown is indeed not a self-help book but a wake up call to figure out what ‘fuck budget’ to you should apply to your life. She even left blank lines after each topic for you to add your own to the book!
The flowchart to giving a fuck or not, by Sarah Knight.
The sass/irony/sarcasm Knight produces has a lot of substance to it as well. Her hands-on tips to mental decluttering and discovering what’s truly important to you helps you to decide what matters in your life. From not caring about other people’s kids to useless paperwork in the office, she covers all grounds of life with the simple #NotSorry attitude, incorporating honesty into all daily decisions.
Knight inspired me to consider as a twenty-something-human/semi-adult what I truly give a fuck about, and what I really don’t. To give you an example, here’s a little list I made:
The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck becomes less of a comedy and more of a cathartic experience of discovering what you really want to spend your time, energy and money on. Whilst us twenty-something-humans figure out how to be an adult, Sarah Knight’s magic gives a little helping hand along the way.
Overall, I’d give Knight’s book a solid 4 out of 5 fucks given.
*Note: On the back of the book it does state, “This book is not approved, endorsed or authorised by Marie Kondo or her publishers”. Kondo is missing out.
*Second Note: Sorry for swearing so much mum, I know you’re reading this.
Dominique is a Novocastrian with a passion for writing, eating and patting dogs. When she's not working hard for the money in Marketing, she can be found hanging out with her two greyhounds, her girlfriend and most likely, drinking a beer. She blogs/pretends to be an established adult at https://dominique-fox.com/ or you can follow her on Instagram @domfoxx