Things to do when you have no idea what you’re doing
I’m currently in a transitional phase, which is a euphemism for unemployment.
I’ve also decided to move, end my post-grad studies, and try to figure my shit out. While this is exciting, I’ve found myself in a purgatory of time. Ok yes, I do have plans and know what I’m doing, but in a more real way I actually have no idea what I’m doing. When I was working and studying I spent my days fantasising about what I’d do with all of my 'free time'. Suddenly I had that time but no desire to do anything, because I didn't NEED to. I ended up just going to ALDI a lot and getting free samples from my butcher. It was really fulfilling and productive.
So, I decided to try and make a change. Cue movie montage music. Here are some of the things that I did, maybe they'll help you too if you also have no fucking idea what you're doing and all of a sudden have an abundance of free time on your hands.
Hang out with old people that you love
If you’re a twenty something lucky enough to know some cool old people, chances are you don’t nearly spend enough time with them. I was beyond guilty of this. With all my commitments, seeing my grandparents became a secondary activity. But now that I’ve had more time, I’ve been able to see a lot more of their cute, sassy faces. By hanging out with them not only have I heard amazing stories, but I have also received gems of wisdom, particularly from my Nan whose relationship advice included, “Mr Perfect went out of the world when Christ died.” She also added, “The bigger the package, the better the relationship.”
Yes, she’s an absolute icon.
Delete things that aren't working for you
When times are hectic, we tend to ignore warning alarms that tell us, “Oi, this is a fucking problem, cut it the fuck out,” because we don't have time to delve into the deeper problem. It's always i-tunes wanting you to upgrade or your computer telling you that its hard drive is nearly full. Yeah, so is mine pal, can we move on?
As I am in-between phases, it has been prime time to figure out what is actually good for me and remove what’s not. This could be anything - behaviour, activities, relationships — but as I’m a shitty millennial, my culling was mostly in the form of apps. I deleted a lot of apps that I’d kept around because it seemed too insignificant to get rid of them. (I’ve learnt it wasn't necessary/healthy for me to always know how many men in my area wanted to fuck.) This way, when it’s time for you to start doing stuff again, you’ve eliminated potential hazards because you’re a self loving,
Do something you’ve judged other people for
At one point or another we've all thought to ourselves, “Ugh, I would never go to the movies on my own. It’s so weird.” As a fucking die hard solo movie watcher, I never got this because it’s not a big deal for me. But then I realised there’s a shit tonne of stuff I say I’d never do, probably because I should do it. This includes: the Bondi to Bronte walk, cooking class, paying for food, etc. I’m going to be honest, I’m yet to actually DO anything from this list, but I have good intentions which I hope you can respect/allow to distract you from the hypocrisy. I promise I’ll get around to it, I’m just preoccupied being told by my Nan to use condoms and delete sex apps. K?
I hope this helps because I know how strange it is to feel stuck and in-between life phases. It’s odd, unsettling and completely fucking normal. Oh and before I forget, something all of us can do with our time, regardless of our schedules is to 👏register👏and👏vote👏for👏marriage👏equality.👏
Daniel is a twenty something living in Sydney. He had to grow a beard so people would stop calling him "ma’am”. When he’s not panicking about bullshit and eating saturated fats, he can be found abusing filters @daniel_hayek.