Meet the 'Sex and the City' Guru: Brian Lobel
How the hell did we get into this mess? Are we sluts? Are men in their 20s the new designer drug? When you sleep with someone, are you screwing the family? Can there be sex without politics?
If any of these questions sound familiar to you then you're probably an avid Sex and the City (SATC) fan. If you're confused, let me explain. The main character of SATC is Carrie Bradshaw, she's a writer living a lavish lifestyle in the hub of New York - which she funds entirely from writing one weekly newspaper column per week...realistic, I know.
As she types away in her beautiful, rent controlled, apartment on her old-school Apple computer, she finishes her sex columns with an interesting and thought provoking question, as shown above.
Brian Lobel, an extreme SATC fan, decided to take note of each and every question that Carrie ever posed throughout the entire series (there's 94 btw) and uses these in his performance piece "You have to forgive me, you have to forgive me, you have to forgive me," which again, if you're an avid fan, you'll know, that this is from the scene in SATC when Carrie is begging Aidan to forgive her for bonking Mr. Big (again).
To start the show off you are offered a Cosmopolitan and then you complete the 94 question survey, which is based on EVERY SINGLE QUESTION that Carrie has asked. Afterwards, Brian invites you to put on some comfs and jump into bed with him. When you're comfy (and probably drunk at this point) you'll then be guided through your survey with Brian who, at the end, diagnoses you with a specific SATC episode that relates to your life and will therefore solve all your problems. It's pretty nifty.
We asked Brian to tell us a little more...
1. Tell us a little bit about your performance 'You have to forgive me...."
Carrie Bradshaw was a goddamn genius and an incredibly important part of my life and coming of age – she was with me through losing my virginity, my cancer, 9/11, coming out and so much more. In the years since the show went off the air, I regularly wonder where Carrie is, what she’s doing, and what she’d think about my, or my friends’, crazy sex and romantic life.
[The] performance is created in exchange for [the participant] completing the a 94-question questionnaire, which is adapted from every question Carrie Bradshaw types from Sex & The City (1997-2004).
2. What do you do with all the surveys that you collect?
Currently, the surveys are in a HUGE pile in my house - I hope one day to write a book about all of them bringing them all together.
3. Are you a Carrie, Miranda, Samantha or a Charlotte?
Miranda 60%, Carrie 20%, Charlotte 15%, Samantha 5% (but I'm 100% Samantha when I'm drunk).
4. If you had to live in one episode of SATC on loop for the rest of your life, which would it be and why?
Boy, Interrupted. David Duchovney, Soho House Pool, Gay Prom, and CARRIE'S HAIR AT THE END!
5. Which would you choose?
a) Berger or The Russian
The Russian, all day and all night.
b) Charlotte's apartment or Heaven on 5th
Charlotte's apartment, I have a weakness for her dining room table. NO DUCK DECOYS EVER.
c) Pick a shoe:
Pink always. Not very modern, but perfect.
d) Best way for a friend to say sorry: bullshit bagels or a muffin basked from Grandma's recipe?
Bullshit bagels - I am Jewish after all.
e) Bad sex or bin cake ?
Bin cake. No shade. 6) If SATC was still running today, what do you think all the ladies would be up to?
I don't like to think of the characters ending, but I have no idea what they'd be up to today. I imagine them having weekly brunches and carrying on as normal. I need for them to not change too much - this is something that Carrie accuses Miranda of needing for her in the final NYC SATC episode... but I need it.
7) What other projects do you have in the works at the moment?
We just opened a musical at the National Theatre and it's going great. That's the big new project but lots of little things in the works.
Image: Joel Fildes